How does one’s trust and self esteem resist to professional and personal rejection or to powerful dissapointment?

How does one’s trust and self esteem resist to professional and personal rejection or to powerful dissapointment?

Events such as being dimissed from your job, getting rejected by a professional jury or being dumped by a potential partner or your current spouse may trigger serious dissapointment, depressive episodes and damage in the most profound way the trust that we have in ourselves as professionals, artists or partners.

Facing these negative events triggers an initial reaction of anger or sadness but it also automatically leads the mind to creating explanations, to generating negative thoughts about our reactions, behaviour, personal value and qualities.

While the initial anger reaction evaporates in a matter of minutes, the sadness tend to remain just as the mind’s critical and negative activity. If we do not realize the process and stop it, these negative patterns and “opinions” of the ego about ourselves can intensify,  take control over out reactiona and influence plans, fluture actions. What often happens is that we become more afraid and hide or refrain from searching a similar job

Setting up a plan for progress. Tips for getting the best from reading a book

Books are one of our essential tools for growth.

When the time comes for you to set up a plan for progress in any area of your life, the first question that probably comes to your mind is what do I know about the subject and where should I look for the information that I need in order to be prepared to reach the level of proficiency that I target.

One of the easiest ways to start your individual progress in almost anything is reading. And no, searching the internet is usually not enough.

Remember, there are great available books to support you in your healing, health, fitness, change of mindset and almost anything that you could imagine. Just search. My own experience showed me that reading spiritual books is connecting to the author’s energy and one of the greatest begininngs for any spiritual practice.

Before you start reading, set up the intention that you will take the best information for you from that book and that the information will stay with you and support your actions. Take a couple of minutes to also read about the author’s life and activities or, if it’s not the first time you read that author, read those once again to remind yourself and connect to the author.

As you go through the book, highlight the sections that you reasonate with and also the information that is new and helps you.

Avoid reading in a hurry.

After finishing the book, read once again the highlighted sections, write down the summary of the relevant highlighted sections or record an audio summary of the book. This is an essential part of your commitment to getting as much of the book as possible. Remember that this step is equally important to actually reading the book.

From time to time, read once again the books summaries in your computer or play your audio recordings while driving to work in the morning or while cleaning the house or cooking. Remember to always return to the book whenever you feel to.

This a call to action for you to set up list of interests and areas of your life that you want to improve.

Then search the internet for the best books and audio books for you to start gathering your information.

Keep track of the changes that occur in your life, mind and body and amend your list and books accordingly.

We all have to start somewhere. Let’s start with a book!

Love. Progress. Live the progress


What’s your life’s number one rule?

What we believe in determines our actions and how we behave.

What do you believe in as your life’s number one rule or guiding principle and what are the benefits of finding this out?

One of the main reasons I love Tony Robbins is that he made me realize many years ago that the number one rule in my life is staying keen to progress every day in every way possible for me. This truth was revealed to me so clearly when listening to one of his great speaches about how decisions shape our destiny. My whole body shaked in that moment, that’s when I knew for sure that I believed in progress day by day more than anything.

So my number one advice for those who have not yet found their “leading light” is to put as much energy and attention possible in the search for that rule, for that principle, for that affirmation that moves every cell in your body. Your body is connected to the infinite source of intelligence of the universe. Trust it and the signals you receive.

For those of you who did find it, you may ask yourselves why is it important for me to have this one guiding rule in my life. Besides, will I manage to stay true and committed to what this implies in those tough times when I feel everything is lost?


In those tough times it will certainly serve your decision making process. Instead of being lost in the mind’s never ending projections and dialogue, instead of searching desperately for the pros and the cons of a particular life circumstance, just sit in silence remembering what really defines you as a human being. You will know what is true and meaningful for you in a particular situation. We are all unique. Some are committed to spirituality, others thrilled about science, and others just make their life purpose making people laugh or studying nature. Isn’t it great?

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There is no better moment then the present moment for you to start searching or for you to start being committed to remembering what is your life’s number one rule.

This a call to action for us all to living intuitively and consciously, always connected to our higher selves.

Search. Progress. Live the progress.


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